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It is almost impossible to conceive of human life without desire. Hence in order to have a meaningful life we must explore deeply into the nature of desire. Desire is not bad as such, but it is important to differentiate between unhealthy and healthy desire. Unhealthy desire produces suffering whereas healthy desire produces well-being, happiness and peace. If we place healthy and unhealthy desire on a spectrum, at one end we have the motivations that lead to some of the worst and most horrific things people do. But at the other end, desire expresses some of the most beautiful and noble aspects of human life.
We can distinguish between the two ends of the spectrum by differentiating between craving and aspiration. Craving represents desire which is in some way compulsive, and is not easy to abandon. It takes a toll on our physical and mental well-being and can lead to alienation from the self. It happens primarily because the mind is the master. By keeping us craving for material and tangible things the mind exerts its absolute control over us.
On the other hand mindfulness is to calm down the incessant churning of desire so that we can discover at the other end of the spectrum our deeper wellsprings of motivation and realize our healthy desires and aspirations. Mindfulness not only helps us get in touch with our aspirations, but it helps prevent aspiration from becoming craving. This doesn’t mean that we don’t act on our aspirations, but that we don’t cling to their success. There is something satisfying and wonderful in a healthy aspiration that is not dependent on outcome. Peace, happiness and tranquility are experienced when cravings are dropped and aspirations are accepted.
Everyone has certainly been emotionally hurt in some way. As a consequence self-worth and emotional well-being is altered and even diminished by the harm resulting in an emotionally abused victim. It is important to cease being a victim and become the author of your own valiant tale of strength and compassion. The character of the victim was created to explain what happened. Suffering occurs when these stories are believed to be true. It is important to recognize that these stories are just stories and not the reality. As long as we cling to the belief that these stories are real we stay stuck in it and work overtime to meet the needs of the story. These stories are so powerful and convincing that they get internalized and get lodged within and manifest itself in physical appearance and movement. It is only by letting go of these stories that freedom can be found to explore the mystery of the true self. The best reason to shed the story is because healing can never be found within that story rather it’s only possible to resign to the script and accept the suffering and remain stuck in the past. Even though it could seem justifiable in insisting on being seen as victimized, abused, abandoned, betrayed and so on the trajectory of your life can be changed by letting go of these stories of pain and misery. Craft a new story that will be a valiant tale of strength, healing and beauty. Script a story of being a valiant traveller rather than a betrayed victim. It is good to remember that none of the stories are true – they are scripts you have created. Then why not create scripts that are grand and ennobling. When this happens you will die to who you have convinced yourself to be and become a mystery unto yourself. You will no longer ask the question, “Who am I?” but instead will wonder, “What am I?” You are much larger than your stories.