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Mindfulness for growth and transformation

Mindfulness is a powerful tool for personal growth. Recently one of my friends began an email by saying, “I am in a bit of a rut right now” and concluded it by remarking, “I really feel the need to have something to look forward to”. The reason for this was the fact that being highly talented and hardworking she did not find the present job to be challenging nor did it give her opportunities to make use of her abilities to the maximum. At the same time her current situation prevented her from quitting and taking up a new job. This situation was going to continue indefinitely. The fact that there was nothing that she could look forward to was taking a toll on her emotionally.

How can mindfulness help?

First and foremost it ought to be seen that none of the thoughts that appear on the screen of our mind is either good or bad. In this case the thought was that there was nothing meaningful or rewarding to look forward. Mindfulness means to be aware that such a thought is appearing on the mind-screen in the present moment. The normal tendency of the ego-mind is to identify personally with the thought which is appearing.  That there is a poor little “me” who is suffering this.  It is this personal identification that creates the suffering. The moment this happens we have lost our control to the ego mind and fall into the rut.

Starving the ego-mind

Being mindful prevents us from making this kind of an identification or attachment to the thought. Rather than becoming the character who is suffering, we are able to become a spectator to the issue. Instead of being embroiled in the drama we are witness of the thought. This detachment prevents us from supplying energy that the idea needs for its survival. The thought feeds and keeps itself alive on the energy that it receives by our identification with it. Once this supply is switched off it simply falls away. The energy that was being spent on propping up this drama is now available to be used creatively.

Growth and transformation

The result of our identification with the thought is that the mind remains agitated. Unlike the still water which can reflect the moon clearly, the ripples break up the reflection into a thousand bits preventing clarity. Mindfulness helps to prevent the ripples so that the mind can reflect reality clearly. The energy is now available to bring forth creative solutions and personal growth. Innate wisdom will arise and guide you. Suddenly you find that the wall on which you have been banging your head is no longer there. Your higher self will guide you to come out of the rut. Old negative patterns that had become deeply etched in the mind will be erased and pathways for life enriching growth and transformation will open up.

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Practice moment to moment non-judgemental awareness

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Why is non-judgment an important practice? Non-judgemental approach means to make a conscious effort not to be critical of the actions or thoughts of others. The practice of non-judgment is essential to purify and deprogram the mind just like by eating clean, healthy food, and avoiding alcohol and caffeine we can detoxify the physical body. There is a distinction between judgment and discernment. Discernment simply is perceiving the way things are. Judgment is what we add to discernment of how things or people are and how we think they ought to be. So, in judgment, there’s an element of dissatisfaction with the way things are and a desire to have things be the way we want them to be. Left to itself, the brain will automatically judge things as good or bad, right or wrong, fair or unfair, important or unimportant, urgent or non-urgent and so on. This happens so fast that our experiences are automatically colored right when we get to them. Practicing non-judgement is to silence the mind by stopping the constant flow of thoughts analysing and evaluating everything and everyone we meet, ourselves included. When the mind is clear, we can see new possibilities, transcend perceived limits, and live a life of greater ease, joy and love. The key here is to bring awareness to the moments of our lives. Be aware when the brain is automatically judging a situation or a person, and we can pause and get some perspective. In this way we create a sort of “space” between ourselves and the thought so that we’re not so caught up in it. Labeling judgements as judgements can be useful. When we notice ourselves judging we can just say the word “judging” quietly to ourselves. When we name our experience we again create a small gap that gives us a sense of freedom. Was this judgment just something that popped in my mind? Is there another way I can see this? A practice of non-judgment helps us to avoid a lot of the suffering we experience on a daily basis. Some kinds of judgment are both good and necessarily practical. What I have tried to highlight are those kinds of judgment that are founded on either hatred, prejudice, rigid categorization, unsubstantiated generalization, or any act of making a ‘final judgment’ that closes the heart to another living being. It is not easy to reserve judgement and no one is entirely able to do so, but it is something we can strive for and put into practise as diligently as possible.

 
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Turn your wounds into source of power.

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Everyone has certainly been emotionally hurt in some way. As a consequence self-worth and emotional well-being is altered and even diminished by the harm resulting in an emotionally abused victim. It is important to cease being a victim and become the author of your own valiant tale of strength and compassion. The character of the victim was created to explain what happened. Suffering occurs when these stories are believed to be true. It is important to recognize that these stories are just stories and not the reality. As long as we cling to the belief that these stories are real we stay stuck in it and work overtime to meet the needs of the story. These stories are so powerful and convincing that they get internalized and get lodged within and manifest itself in physical appearance and movement. It is only by letting go of these stories that freedom can be found to explore the mystery of the true self. The best reason to shed the story is because healing can never be found within that story rather it’s only possible to resign to the script and accept the suffering and remain stuck in the past. Even though it could seem justifiable in insisting on being seen as victimized, abused, abandoned, betrayed and so on the trajectory of your life can be changed by letting go of these stories of pain and misery. Craft a new story that will be a valiant tale of strength, healing and beauty. Script a story of being a valiant traveller rather than a betrayed victim. It is good to remember that none of the stories are true – they are scripts you have created. Then why not create scripts that are grand and ennobling. When this happens you will die to who you have convinced yourself to be and become a mystery unto yourself. You will no longer ask the question, “Who am I?” but instead will wonder, “What am I?” You are much larger than your stories.

 
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